“IN THE END, THE LOVE YOU TAKE IS EQUAL TO THE LOVE YOU MAKE”
– Paul McCartney, 1969.
I have spoken to a countless amount of people that deal with a significant amount of self hatred and doubt, and it is confusing and bewildering to me– these same people that crave love and being valued walk around on their phones all day, looking for love from cute girls on Tinder using cheesy pickup lines. For these people, it’s a big decision to decide to love somebody, and something they themselves would only make a few times in their lives.
I spent my last week doing something refreshing and inspiring– falling in love with dozens of people. My aunt and uncle organized a family reunion, and I met and talked with many people that had only recently become family on my uncle’s side. Over the week, I fell in love with all of my new cousins and uncles and aunts (and great-aunts). Luckily for me, it was hard not to– they were wonderful people. The love was contagious and spread everywhere, we endlessly toasted each other, told each other our most personal stories, and cried when we had to leave each other. Mathematically, it seemed to give further proof to Paul McCartney’s love formula. But I also realized that this formula was not an economical cost-benefit chart. It was pure profit–it felt good to love and it felt good to be loved.
“I LOOK AT THE WORLD, SEE THE LOVE THERE THAT’S SLEEPING”
-George Harrison, 1968
I do think to love someone is a big deal and a big commitment, but it should not be one that people should be so hesitant to take. Though platonic love may feel awkward and mushy at first, I think it is one of the most valuable things that humans have to offer each other.
I love my family, and they love me– that feels good. I love many of my friends– and that feels good too. I have many more people to fall in with in life as well, and that excites me.